Archive for October, 2011

October 28, 2011

Colossians 2:2 (Devotional)

. . . being knit together in love . . . -Colossians 2:2 Thousands of young couples go through with a loveless marriage because no one ever told them what genuine love is. I believe we need to read the 13th chapter of First Corinthians, in which the Apostle Paul gives us a definition of love. He says, “Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” If people today knew that kind of love, the divorce rate would be sharply reduced.

http://www.billygraham.org/dailydevotion.asp?articleid=7426
#Bible http://j.mp/tBX7ca

October 24, 2011

The Six-Letter Word

The Six-Letter Word
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I was taught a lesson that just six simple letters could make a difference.

Those six letters made the word – SILENT.

Those letters when rearranged also spell the word – LISTEN.

I never truly understood that until the day I stood silent and learned there was more to life than everyday living.

When you don’t take the time to listen and be silent then
everything is easily taken for granted.

The things I wasn’t silent for and listened for, I now miss the most.

A simple I love you from my children.

The request of a loved one that I was too busy for at the time.

Little did I know, that if I stayed quiet and savored things, I could have imprinted their voices in my mind and made memories that would have lasted.

The one thing I always will be thankful for is that I learned my lesson and heeded the call. But also that God truly is silent and listened for my every need, but in return if I’m silent, I can also hear from Him.

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October 20, 2011

Don’t jump……

Jumping to conclusions… this habit increases people’s difficulties.  they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption. 

~By Adrian Savage.

Have you ever done this…?

This is something I know I have done and I am learning to ask questions instead.  I would watch and make a conclusion based on the evidence and what I see happening and from peoples reactions. I learning a long time ago that you needed to be ahead of the game in order to come out of it unscathed.

As I have grown in age and the Lord I have come to understand that doing this keeps me away from really knowing people.

I am learning that asking questions helps and I have been practicing…mostly on my family.

Family is where most of life is lived out…

in the 4 walls of home.

Unity must be actively strengthened

or Division Breeds

Family can breed all kinds of conclusions because we have lived together so long we can start to think we know what another is doing, thinking, going to say….There is a problem…we are not mind readers!! Not even with those outside our homes. And when we think we are ….well we could very well just be prideful…and we will fall.

If we think we know and are not open to new info, we might hedge people into a box. We may be guilty of now allowing others to grow and change. Believing  “we know!” – will cause conflict. We only see dimly. We can be blinded by our own shadowy selves.

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Listening to each other is key.

My conclusion ..lol

is …well …

perhaps we just simply don’t trust

…I didn’t.

When I was a kid I learned that I couldn’t  trust my parents. They were inconsistent.  I never knew what I was coming home too. It was often hostile and negligent. So I learned to prepare and protect and trust only myself. I grew up believing I needed to defend myself. I grew to believe that people were out to get me in some way, that they would trap me with my own words. So I learned to predict what would happen and how to come out on top of the situation.

Learning to think different has been a task and sometimes I find that I have made up my mind about something or someone, even when another person has communicated to me differently than I believe…. I  have to choice to trust what they are saying to me or not.

Communication is another key.

We don’t all communicate the same way in my home….and if we choose not to listen well to each other then miscommunication happens and distrust multiplies. Blame, excuses, angry venting, and character assassination are not communication. None of that will get you to understanding someone better.

When you are worried and feeling compromised ….(as I have often felt)

Judge the content of character….what is the persons track record. Remember to leave room that they are being honest and that you could be wrong.

if their character is good …trust

if their character is not good….trust with caution (give them the benefit of the doubt.)

REMEMBER this is not TRUST in them…

it is

TRUST in GOD!

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He is the ONE we TRUST.

He works all things together for GOOD.

…the good for us may be to learn a lesson, persevere, gain patience, love someone un-loveable ..ect.

but what ever you do ….don’t jump to conclusions.

Instead Choose LOVE and WATCH FOR THE FRUIT!

~Friendships of Love

October 18, 2011

Calloused

A calloused soul… It’s very protective. It builds a strong barrier to being hurt, but that barrier prevents any other emotion from being touched either….. writers … play with language all day long. They’ve developed an acute sense of what language does; they can “feel” the difference between silk and sandpaper…Give some thought to what your goals in life are regarding emotions, do you want to “feel” all of them, or not? Don’t opt for callousness and miss out on the rest of life.

~ Dr. Deb

Callous….dictionary.com says it means :

made hard; hardened….

insensitive; indifferent; unsympathetic

I think of my husband. He works tree service, his hands a rough and on all parts that are padded are those hard callouses.

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The only thing they are good for is grabbing other tough stuff or hot stuff like hot burritos off the grill….or even scratch my back with the palms of his hands.

BUT WHAT GOOD IS A

CALLOUSED HEART?

Matthew 13:15
For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.’

It says here that when our hearts are calloused then we cant really hear….

Ever been angry and for good reason and you don’t want to make up ? …resentment, bitterness breeds …that hardness in us makes it HARD to reconcile with.

It also says that you cant see….

Is that because you will see what you want to see?? … seeing offense, bad motives and an enemy??

When we choose instead to be soft and tender, choosing forgiveness and love, we may suffer and our soft hearts may bleed. (suffer for loves sake, choose unity instead of self, choose to give instead of withhold) and sometimes that is not easy.

But if  LOVE AS I HAVE LOVED YOU is the goal

 John 13:34-35 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.

Let us instead of becoming callous ….learn to bleed out our suffering ….and Breath in New Life just like Christ did.

~Friendships of Love

October 14, 2011

Foundation Relationships

WITH GOD

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This is the most important relationship that there is!

It is also the most easy to let slip.

I have been exploring what this relationship is suppose to look like. For years I understood that prayer, bible reading, study, and quietness all come into play with this relationship. But I began to noticed that this relationship was weaving through everything and not just those things I listed. I am a word person. I love to write and writing is a huge part for me to see how God speaks to me. I have been writing in a journal for years and began to see words repeat and started to notice when He was trying to tell me something. I called them theme words in my journals. These where often related to things I was struggling with or something I needed to watch for because they were things that would easily trip me. God was teaching me though my writing.

He created us unique and intelligent. He created us for communication, for intimacy, for companionship. So, you need to have some understanding about how you communicate to understand how he speaks to you. That is where relationship with yourself comes in….

WITH YOURSELF

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Knowing what you like and dislike are important. Knowing what drains your energy and what invigorates you is also key to living well. Understanding how you communicate, how you interpret the world, what is important to you, what your strengths and talents are…and yes you must also know your weaknesses and your triggers for less than best behavior. When you have a grasp on these things through knowledge of yourself, you begin to see how God created you to hear Him. Suddenly ears and eyes are opening and God is speaking everywhere. Its an amazing journey. Taking personality tests are a fun way to find out some basics. Some of us can be so bogged down by the people and the world around us we don’t know what we want, like, feel or think. We are so double-mind sometimes…don’t fret. Begin to discover your TRUTHS. Take a soul oasis…relax with yourself and enjoy the view. Observe what you are like and how others react to you. Ask a trusted friend what they see in you.

See what’s there within…. unfold and unpack your selfness.

 

WITH OTHERS

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And just like learning about who you are and how you communicate. It is equally important to learn about the people around you. It makes no sense to expect people to think and act and be just like you. It makes no sense to expect that they should conform to you. You must learn about others. Be proactive and become a knower of others. Communicate to them in the way in which they understand.

For example, have you ever had someone come to you to tell you about something and they start giving you every single detail and you feel like you are in a drum of a washer being emotionally spun out. That is because you could be a very direct person who does not need all the details, you get the situation loud and clear with the summed up version.

Or how about when someone comes up to you and they say something very directly with little detail and they walk away. Do you feel like you have just been daggered in the chest and you’re wondering if they are mad at you. That is because you could be someone who is tenderhearted, softer shelled and needs clear details to understand fully.

There is nothing wrong with either way.

Yet we often do not think about who the other person is that we are speaking to, we just know we have something to say and we say it.

When we do this we often leave a trail of miscommunications.

So do yourself a favor cultivate these three relationships….it will be worth it!!

~ Friendships of Love

October 10, 2011

Be a friend…

I want to write about what is useful to people. This is a place where we want to share HOW to be a friend. First my foundation for truth is scripture:

Proverbs 18:24

 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

If you ever thought I don’t have any real friends.

If you look around you and think –  isn’t there anyone who I can be real with?

If you wonder why you cant find a true friend.

Then the first place to start looking is IN!

IN YOU!

First do you have that FRIEND who sticks closer than a brother…

This is JESUS!

Do you know Him ?

If you don’t it is really simple. Admit you are a mess and you don’t know how to do this life by yourself. Recognized that He died for you and rose to give you NEW LIFE.  Ask Him to come into your heart and be your Savior and King…then BELIEVE that He has. Because if you asked – HE DID!!

Romans 10:9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.

The second place to start is still IN YOU!

…its time to get real with yourself.

How friendly are you? Are you stand-offish, cynical, critical, rude.

Do you talk about people?  Are you backstabbing and cruel toward people when you don’t agree with them or then with you. People talk about people and sometimes we need help to see a different perspective but sometimes we just like to bash because we disagree. This is not friendly.

The reason people often feel alone is because they don’t have a real friendships based on love. This is how I felt for a long time.  They may have acquaintances. They may have people they call friends but they sit around and talk crap about other people to each other all the time, not to help each other find solutions but just to complain and remain. And if you have relationships like that, you know deep down in your soul that this person will talk about you the same way the two of you are talking about other people …it’s a companionship based on misery. Like the old saying : “Misery loves company.” It is not fulfilling and it can not satisfy the deep need to be known and loved for the unique creation of God that you are.

 So what do you do???

You walk in the truth ….

A man who has friends must himself be friendly!

TRUTH is the only thing that will work for you…not against you. And when a situation is difficult – and they will be at times because its not easy being friendly to unfriendly people (and trust me – we all can be unfriendly) – you use GRACE.

GRACE is unmerited favor…you be kind even when they don’t deserve it.

Kindness doesn’t look like happy nothings -wrong – all is well stuff – ignore the issue…

Sometimes kindness means you keep your mouth shut instead of reacting back the same way they spoke to you. Sometimes kindness means you lovingly share the truth you are reading here. Sometimes kindness means you enter into their issue with compassion and understanding to help them find a solution.

because you know the TRUTH…

Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

You know what else :

BASHING PEOPLE NEVER SOLVES A THING…

so sometimes people don’t want help, they just want you to be a dumping ground for their problems and you will have to walk away from them for a season…and that is ok.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Don’t let anyone deceive you. Associating with bad people will ruin decent people.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to disassociate…

but remember to be kind when you do meet them again….

YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU GIVE!

…even if it is only in the time slot called …. eventually !

STARLA

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