Archive for October 10th, 2011

October 10, 2011

Be a friend…

I want to write about what is useful to people. This is a place where we want to share HOW to be a friend. First my foundation for truth is scripture:

Proverbs 18:24

 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

If you ever thought I don’t have any real friends.

If you look around you and think –  isn’t there anyone who I can be real with?

If you wonder why you cant find a true friend.

Then the first place to start looking is IN!


First do you have that FRIEND who sticks closer than a brother…

This is JESUS!

Do you know Him ?

If you don’t it is really simple. Admit you are a mess and you don’t know how to do this life by yourself. Recognized that He died for you and rose to give you NEW LIFE.  Ask Him to come into your heart and be your Savior and King…then BELIEVE that He has. Because if you asked – HE DID!!

Romans 10:9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.

The second place to start is still IN YOU!

…its time to get real with yourself.

How friendly are you? Are you stand-offish, cynical, critical, rude.

Do you talk about people?  Are you backstabbing and cruel toward people when you don’t agree with them or then with you. People talk about people and sometimes we need help to see a different perspective but sometimes we just like to bash because we disagree. This is not friendly.

The reason people often feel alone is because they don’t have a real friendships based on love. This is how I felt for a long time.  They may have acquaintances. They may have people they call friends but they sit around and talk crap about other people to each other all the time, not to help each other find solutions but just to complain and remain. And if you have relationships like that, you know deep down in your soul that this person will talk about you the same way the two of you are talking about other people …it’s a companionship based on misery. Like the old saying : “Misery loves company.” It is not fulfilling and it can not satisfy the deep need to be known and loved for the unique creation of God that you are.

 So what do you do???

You walk in the truth ….

A man who has friends must himself be friendly!

TRUTH is the only thing that will work for you…not against you. And when a situation is difficult – and they will be at times because its not easy being friendly to unfriendly people (and trust me – we all can be unfriendly) – you use GRACE.

GRACE is unmerited favor…you be kind even when they don’t deserve it.

Kindness doesn’t look like happy nothings -wrong – all is well stuff – ignore the issue…

Sometimes kindness means you keep your mouth shut instead of reacting back the same way they spoke to you. Sometimes kindness means you lovingly share the truth you are reading here. Sometimes kindness means you enter into their issue with compassion and understanding to help them find a solution.

because you know the TRUTH…

Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

You know what else :


so sometimes people don’t want help, they just want you to be a dumping ground for their problems and you will have to walk away from them for a season…and that is ok.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Don’t let anyone deceive you. Associating with bad people will ruin decent people.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to disassociate…

but remember to be kind when you do meet them again….


…even if it is only in the time slot called …. eventually !


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