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October 7, 2012

Which Way Does Your Child Primarily Connect with the World?

Which Way Does Your Child Primarily Connect with the World?

Fri, Sep 28, 2012


Ever wonder why every child is different in how they see and connect to the world?

Where one child might be all about making friends, another might be focused on learning and asking deep questions.

Each Type of child has a primary way of connecting with the world, that is distinct from other other Types.

Remember, every child has the capacity to express all four levels: social, emotional, physical and intellectual. But every child will lead with a dominant way of connecting to the world:

Type 1: Social connection

Having fun with their family and friends is what Type 1 children thrive on. They need to interact with other people in order to be happy.

They will be naturally playful with other people no matter what they are doing. Fun, to a Type 1 child, is a social energy that is to be enjoyed in every experience, from going to school to brushing their teeth.

Type 2: Emotional connection

Sensitive and open-hearted, Type 2 children are quite tuned in to the emotions of other people. They are very heart-felt and will connect to others emotionally by feeling inwardly what others are feeling.

Because they don’t want hurt anyone’s feelings, Type 2′s need to be taught to speak up for themselves. And if their needs aren’t being met in a way that honors them, Type 2 children will whine if they’re not being noticed.

Type 3: Physical connection

Active and determined, Type 3 children take a more physical, hands-on approach to the world. They can sometimes be perceived as pushy, because they tend to move swiftly and abruptly through life in pursuit of their goals.

One of the best ways to support a Type 3 child is to give them outlets where they can move freely outside and exercise their substantial energy. Enroll them in sports that they enjoy.

Type 4: Intellectual connection

Type 4′s are deep, reflective thinkers. They are naturally logical and focused on reason. As children, they often behave like miniature adults, as they like to observe and mimic adults.

Even at a young age, Type 4 children require the most solitary time than other other Type. Support them by giving them space and privacy for solitude.

Is your child an Innie or Outie?

At a a basic level, it can also help to think of it this way:

  • Type 1 and Type 3—their energy moves outward.
  • Type 2 and Type 4—their energy moves inward.

Can you spot your child’s true nature by noticing how they connect to the world? What are some of the ways you can support your child’s Type? Share your thoughts with me below.

And watch for my upcoming parenting book, The Child Whisperer, due out in October 2012.

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