Staying Out of Your Head

Perfect timing!  I got this in my email this morning & so needed it.  I believe he has hit the nail on the head with the way we are taught to think instead of feel…  I feel torn in two at times with this inner struggle.  I know what I feel but do I share it?  Not as often as I should.  I have been rejected and ignored or even told I was to much.  I will be putting the newly learned information to practice with the hope of reducing the inner struggle by living fully, alive & when necessary out loud = )


"We are trained to be ‘other-directed’ rather than be in contact with ourselves."
– Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

Living Compassion Tip — Week 15

Staying Out of Your Head

For most of us, learning to communicate has meant staying as Marshall Rosenberg puts it, "up in our head" rather than in our heart. "Feelings are simply not important. We are trained to be ‘other-directed’ rather than be in contact with ourselves," says Dr. Rosenberg

We have more words for calling people names in our everyday vocabulary then we have for clearly expressing our emotional state. It’s easier to call someone a name than to stop and connect with our own feelings and needs.

We are taught to approach a problem in an analytical way. Finding the "right way to think" will serve us better every time, we’re told.

But what we really need for guiding our way and finding a solution that best serves all involved is to keep our head out of our heart. This means checking in with how we feel in the situation first and then using our head to develop strategies for dealing with the present challenge.

It’s important to use both our ability to think AND to feel.


Mindful Practice for the Week

This week, pay attention to the number of times you connect with how you feel in a situation before you decide what to do. Enjoy your week!


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