this verse is it!
When you open your heart to another and make them your friend they come inside your circle. They are in a position to see within your thoughts and heart because with a friend these are things that you share. There are times even a friend whom you have had coffee with, enjoyed company, spent Saturday’s together – lifts their heel against you. Isn’t that also one of our greatest fears. Having someone turn against you. Isn’t it the reason why we hide, or just simply live inside our soul armor.
Forgiveness & Reconciliation = GROWING THOUGH –>
It really is a choice of a lifetime….TO OPEN YOURSELF and be susceptible to wounding or forever live always wondering if anyone would ever really know you.
A calloused soul… It’s very protective. It builds a strong barrier to being hurt, but that barrier prevents any other emotion from being touched either….. writers … play with language all day long. They’ve developed an acute sense of what language does; they can “feel” the difference between silk and sandpaper…Give some thought to what your goals in life are regarding emotions, do you want to “feel” all of them, or not? Don’t opt for callousness and miss out on the rest of life.
~ Dr. Deb
Callous….dictionary.com says it means :
made hard; hardened….
insensitive; indifferent; unsympathetic
I think of my husband. He works tree service, his hands a rough and on all parts that are padded are those hard callouses.
The only thing they are good for is grabbing other tough stuff or hot stuff like hot burritos off the grill….or even scratch my back with the palms of his hands.
BUT WHAT GOOD IS A
For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.’
It says here that when our hearts are calloused then we cant really hear….
Ever been angry and for good reason and you don’t want to make up ? …resentment, bitterness breeds …that hardness in us makes it HARD to reconcile with.
It also says that you cant see….
Is that because you will see what you want to see?? … seeing offense, bad motives and an enemy??
When we choose instead to be soft and tender, choosing forgiveness and love, we may suffer and our soft hearts may bleed. (suffer for loves sake, choose unity instead of self, choose to give instead of withhold) and sometimes that is not easy.
But if LOVE AS I HAVE LOVED YOU is the goal …
John 13:34-35 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
Let us instead of becoming callous ….learn to bleed out our suffering ….and Breath in New Life just like Christ did.
~Friendships of Love