Posts tagged ‘hearing’

October 18, 2011

Calloused

A calloused soul… It’s very protective. It builds a strong barrier to being hurt, but that barrier prevents any other emotion from being touched either….. writers … play with language all day long. They’ve developed an acute sense of what language does; they can “feel” the difference between silk and sandpaper…Give some thought to what your goals in life are regarding emotions, do you want to “feel” all of them, or not? Don’t opt for callousness and miss out on the rest of life.

~ Dr. Deb

Callous….dictionary.com says it means :

made hard; hardened….

insensitive; indifferent; unsympathetic

I think of my husband. He works tree service, his hands a rough and on all parts that are padded are those hard callouses.

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The only thing they are good for is grabbing other tough stuff or hot stuff like hot burritos off the grill….or even scratch my back with the palms of his hands.

BUT WHAT GOOD IS A

CALLOUSED HEART?

Matthew 13:15
For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.’

It says here that when our hearts are calloused then we cant really hear….

Ever been angry and for good reason and you don’t want to make up ? …resentment, bitterness breeds …that hardness in us makes it HARD to reconcile with.

It also says that you cant see….

Is that because you will see what you want to see?? … seeing offense, bad motives and an enemy??

When we choose instead to be soft and tender, choosing forgiveness and love, we may suffer and our soft hearts may bleed. (suffer for loves sake, choose unity instead of self, choose to give instead of withhold) and sometimes that is not easy.

But if  LOVE AS I HAVE LOVED YOU is the goal

 John 13:34-35 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.

Let us instead of becoming callous ….learn to bleed out our suffering ….and Breath in New Life just like Christ did.

~Friendships of Love

October 14, 2011

Foundation Relationships

WITH GOD

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This is the most important relationship that there is!

It is also the most easy to let slip.

I have been exploring what this relationship is suppose to look like. For years I understood that prayer, bible reading, study, and quietness all come into play with this relationship. But I began to noticed that this relationship was weaving through everything and not just those things I listed. I am a word person. I love to write and writing is a huge part for me to see how God speaks to me. I have been writing in a journal for years and began to see words repeat and started to notice when He was trying to tell me something. I called them theme words in my journals. These where often related to things I was struggling with or something I needed to watch for because they were things that would easily trip me. God was teaching me though my writing.

He created us unique and intelligent. He created us for communication, for intimacy, for companionship. So, you need to have some understanding about how you communicate to understand how he speaks to you. That is where relationship with yourself comes in….

WITH YOURSELF

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Knowing what you like and dislike are important. Knowing what drains your energy and what invigorates you is also key to living well. Understanding how you communicate, how you interpret the world, what is important to you, what your strengths and talents are…and yes you must also know your weaknesses and your triggers for less than best behavior. When you have a grasp on these things through knowledge of yourself, you begin to see how God created you to hear Him. Suddenly ears and eyes are opening and God is speaking everywhere. Its an amazing journey. Taking personality tests are a fun way to find out some basics. Some of us can be so bogged down by the people and the world around us we don’t know what we want, like, feel or think. We are so double-mind sometimes…don’t fret. Begin to discover your TRUTHS. Take a soul oasis…relax with yourself and enjoy the view. Observe what you are like and how others react to you. Ask a trusted friend what they see in you.

See what’s there within…. unfold and unpack your selfness.

 

WITH OTHERS

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And just like learning about who you are and how you communicate. It is equally important to learn about the people around you. It makes no sense to expect people to think and act and be just like you. It makes no sense to expect that they should conform to you. You must learn about others. Be proactive and become a knower of others. Communicate to them in the way in which they understand.

For example, have you ever had someone come to you to tell you about something and they start giving you every single detail and you feel like you are in a drum of a washer being emotionally spun out. That is because you could be a very direct person who does not need all the details, you get the situation loud and clear with the summed up version.

Or how about when someone comes up to you and they say something very directly with little detail and they walk away. Do you feel like you have just been daggered in the chest and you’re wondering if they are mad at you. That is because you could be someone who is tenderhearted, softer shelled and needs clear details to understand fully.

There is nothing wrong with either way.

Yet we often do not think about who the other person is that we are speaking to, we just know we have something to say and we say it.

When we do this we often leave a trail of miscommunications.

So do yourself a favor cultivate these three relationships….it will be worth it!!

~ Friendships of Love

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