Posts tagged ‘kindness’

May 15, 2012

Do you brace?


I recently watched this movie and it is still speaking to me.

Buck is a man who works with horses. He is the guy that Robert Redford based his character on in the movie The Horse Whisperer.

In the movie Buck does a visual experiment with another man. They each hold the end of a rope. Buck talks about how horses can “ feel” what you are doing through slight movement. So he tugs on the rope and the man grabs tight. As Buck is talking he randomly tugs that rope and the man grabs tight. Then Buck just makes a movement but not exactly the same and the man braced for the tug.

While I am watching this I am thinking that is how we as humans are as well. When we get around someone and “feel” that familiar feel that we got as a kid or a teen when someone hurt us =WE BRACE!

Sometimes it looks like defensiveness, or anger, flight from the person, or some kind of lashing out. In these areas where these AUTO BRACING happen are areas where we do not trust.

I remember many time in the early years of my marriage my husband would “feel” to me like danger. I would brace hard and push back. My defensiveness was quick to rear its ugly head. Just like the horses did by stamping there feet and rearing up.  Many times he treated me just like Buck did the horse in this movie. Slowly backing the horse up with gentleness and love. All the while speaking truth and controlling his emotions. I had to be backed up into a corner a few times and told I am not going to hurt you.

God used my husband to teach me to trust again. I really didn’t see that because it happened slowly over many years but since watching this movie and looking back in reflection. I can see God’s hand teaching me His love and kindness. I can see how far God has walked me in trusting Him with my heart no matter what people may do.

May we have the courage to love those who brace against us until the rest in our love like we rest in the love of Christ.


Double Post Smile with tongue out Here and F of L

October 18, 2011


A calloused soul… It’s very protective. It builds a strong barrier to being hurt, but that barrier prevents any other emotion from being touched either….. writers … play with language all day long. They’ve developed an acute sense of what language does; they can “feel” the difference between silk and sandpaper…Give some thought to what your goals in life are regarding emotions, do you want to “feel” all of them, or not? Don’t opt for callousness and miss out on the rest of life.

~ Dr. Deb

Callous… says it means :

made hard; hardened….

insensitive; indifferent; unsympathetic

I think of my husband. He works tree service, his hands a rough and on all parts that are padded are those hard callouses.


The only thing they are good for is grabbing other tough stuff or hot stuff like hot burritos off the grill….or even scratch my back with the palms of his hands.



Matthew 13:15
For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.’

It says here that when our hearts are calloused then we cant really hear….

Ever been angry and for good reason and you don’t want to make up ? …resentment, bitterness breeds …that hardness in us makes it HARD to reconcile with.

It also says that you cant see….

Is that because you will see what you want to see?? … seeing offense, bad motives and an enemy??

When we choose instead to be soft and tender, choosing forgiveness and love, we may suffer and our soft hearts may bleed. (suffer for loves sake, choose unity instead of self, choose to give instead of withhold) and sometimes that is not easy.

But if  LOVE AS I HAVE LOVED YOU is the goal

 John 13:34-35 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.

Let us instead of becoming callous ….learn to bleed out our suffering ….and Breath in New Life just like Christ did.

~Friendships of Love

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