Posts tagged ‘people’

December 2, 2011

Getting Crabby!


Philippians 2:1414 Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining (against God) and questioning and doubting [among yourselves],

I have this thing in myself and you do to…called EGO (SELF)

It’s that thing that gets out of control with pride and thinks it deserves everything it wants, causes chaos and division, reeks havoc on other people through constant battering of their ears with non stop complaining and blaming, accusing and excusing. 

Ever been there when you feel like someone has hit the repeat button?

It is almost like this CRABBY attitude, is used to “GET MY WAY!”

We are not 3 years old….

throwing fits and behaving like spoiled children, saying things with no regard to how it may hurt others….bullying and pulling manipulations tactics is for unbelievers.

What ever happened to “ If you don’t have anything nice to say , don’t say anything at all!”

Well I am coming to the conclusion that people who want to be like Christ may have twisted this one!

This statement is for the OFFENDERS!

We are not suppose to be SILENT in the face of such injustice….

We are to correct in love….but the problem has come that the offenders cause you to become silent and think that statement is for you because they call you judgmental, say that you aren’t being loving, the you are acting all high and mighty. When the truth is …


When you refuse to hear …. that you hurt someone – it’s PRIDE.

When you find yourself making excuses for your behavior when confronted – it’s PRIDE.

When you start blaming others instead of take responsibility for what you have done or where part of – It’s PRIDE.

When you accuse others of just being mean and unloving when they bring something to your attention, when you know these are people who love you. – It’s PRIDE.

So stop using the CRABBY PUSH —Putting Ur Self Higher to get your PRIDE ON!!

and instead walk in HUMILITY.

Colossians 3:12-14

12 Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].

13 Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].

It goes both way, everything is not always one sided…because there are times when we don’t deal with hurts and it turns into resentment …and the other person maybe coming to talk to you about your mouth but your unforgiving heart has hardened against them and you may need to be honest ….either way, what ever it is …if PRIDE is an issue : LETS GET IT RIGHT!

October 14, 2011

Foundation Relationships



This is the most important relationship that there is!

It is also the most easy to let slip.

I have been exploring what this relationship is suppose to look like. For years I understood that prayer, bible reading, study, and quietness all come into play with this relationship. But I began to noticed that this relationship was weaving through everything and not just those things I listed. I am a word person. I love to write and writing is a huge part for me to see how God speaks to me. I have been writing in a journal for years and began to see words repeat and started to notice when He was trying to tell me something. I called them theme words in my journals. These where often related to things I was struggling with or something I needed to watch for because they were things that would easily trip me. God was teaching me though my writing.

He created us unique and intelligent. He created us for communication, for intimacy, for companionship. So, you need to have some understanding about how you communicate to understand how he speaks to you. That is where relationship with yourself comes in….



Knowing what you like and dislike are important. Knowing what drains your energy and what invigorates you is also key to living well. Understanding how you communicate, how you interpret the world, what is important to you, what your strengths and talents are…and yes you must also know your weaknesses and your triggers for less than best behavior. When you have a grasp on these things through knowledge of yourself, you begin to see how God created you to hear Him. Suddenly ears and eyes are opening and God is speaking everywhere. Its an amazing journey. Taking personality tests are a fun way to find out some basics. Some of us can be so bogged down by the people and the world around us we don’t know what we want, like, feel or think. We are so double-mind sometimes…don’t fret. Begin to discover your TRUTHS. Take a soul oasis…relax with yourself and enjoy the view. Observe what you are like and how others react to you. Ask a trusted friend what they see in you.

See what’s there within…. unfold and unpack your selfness.




And just like learning about who you are and how you communicate. It is equally important to learn about the people around you. It makes no sense to expect people to think and act and be just like you. It makes no sense to expect that they should conform to you. You must learn about others. Be proactive and become a knower of others. Communicate to them in the way in which they understand.

For example, have you ever had someone come to you to tell you about something and they start giving you every single detail and you feel like you are in a drum of a washer being emotionally spun out. That is because you could be a very direct person who does not need all the details, you get the situation loud and clear with the summed up version.

Or how about when someone comes up to you and they say something very directly with little detail and they walk away. Do you feel like you have just been daggered in the chest and you’re wondering if they are mad at you. That is because you could be someone who is tenderhearted, softer shelled and needs clear details to understand fully.

There is nothing wrong with either way.

Yet we often do not think about who the other person is that we are speaking to, we just know we have something to say and we say it.

When we do this we often leave a trail of miscommunications.

So do yourself a favor cultivate these three relationships….it will be worth it!!

~ Friendships of Love

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