Posts tagged ‘pride’

June 21, 2012


Proverbs 6:16-19 ESV

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.

Recently Tina and I looked up each word in the Fruit of the Spirit. We wanted to look at the opposites of each word also – the antonym. The antonym on LOVE was ABOMINATION. Strong word I would say. I’ve thought of this word  abomination as a word like damnation. But here we can see it is very simple. This word simply means – NOT LOVING! Now lets look at why…we like to look at all things in context of relationship here at F of lets put it in context.

Haughty eyes – this word means Proud, Snob, and Arrogant.  If you are looking toward others like you are so much better than they are, smarter than they are, as if they have nothing to offer you. are not loving anything but yourself. Humility to hear something other than your own thinking and being open minded is needed.

A lying tongue – simply not being honest with the people around you. There is no way to walk through trials and issues in relationship if there is not honesty. Honesty about how you feel, think, and what you need from the people around you. If fear is an issue and you lie because you fear the outcome then courage is needed to speak the truth.

Hands that shed innocent blood – This could be more than murder. It could be throwing someone else under the bus, creating situations where others become angry with people, where they think badly about another instead of you owning up to your mistakes…this could be simply blaming others. What is needed is personal responsibility to deal with yourself instead of lashing out on others.

A heart that devises wicked plans – working against people on purpose. Choosing to thwart others. This is the opposite of working together. The opposite of unity. This is finding ways to put others lower so you can get ahead. What is needed is a team player mindset. You are only as good as the team around you. Encourage and help others instead. Be a problem solver not a problem maker.

Feet that make haste to run to evil – looking for trouble, looking for any back handed way to get ahead. One who is running on impulse and not thinking twice. Quick to lie, steal, cheat. Serious repentance and a turn from all evil is needed here. Haste makes waste — wasting away is death… stop killing yourself. Waste belongs in the toilet. So start flushing!!

A false witness who breathes out lies – Lying against others. Telling stories to better yourself. Fabricating the truth. Padding the way you “look” in a story for a more favorable outcome toward yourself. Being honest at all times requires much strength.


One who sows discord among brothers – Do you pit people against each other. Tell people what you heard others say about them. Intentionally tell others what people did that you know will disturb them and cause them to have feelings of dislike toward someone.


See abomination doesn’t have to mean you are a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad person …you just have simply chosen not to LOVE. We need not be shamed into better behavior. What we need in understanding and choice.


Don’t become an:

A-BOM (b) I (all about me) NATION 

Stop exploding  your inner garbage all over everyone else! Deal with it by loving instead! Now that is real strength…


Starla ( with lots of Tina thinking in there!! ) Open-mouthed smile

April 5, 2012

What’s the condition?

“Love is a commitment that will be tested in the most vulnerable areas of spirituality, a commitment that will force you to make some very difficult choices. It is a commitment that demands that you deal with your lust, your greed, your pride, your power, your desire to control, your temper, your patience, and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.” ~ Ravi Zacharias

I don’t think I had thought of those things like that before…as spiritual. Of course they are and I know that but I just hadn’t thought of it like that. Just like that.

And …it is true.

These things…

lust, greed, pride, power,

control, temper, patience.

..these all bear proof of what my spiritual condition is.

It is true that LOVE will cause a BREAKING in these areas.

You will either break ….within and pour your life out for another. Or you will break them with your selfishness.

John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.

The vulnerable part comes ….it always comes. Will we allow the truth to show and choose to be healed by the Light that shines on our dark places or will we run for cover when light comes like a vampire in the sun, seeking our coffins and shadowed lives.

If we do …we could be guilty of SUCKING OTHER PEOPLE DRY for our own benefit. 

In which case the testing came and we are shown to be lacking LOVE.

~Friendships of Love

December 2, 2011

Getting Crabby!


Philippians 2:1414 Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining (against God) and questioning and doubting [among yourselves],

I have this thing in myself and you do to…called EGO (SELF)

It’s that thing that gets out of control with pride and thinks it deserves everything it wants, causes chaos and division, reeks havoc on other people through constant battering of their ears with non stop complaining and blaming, accusing and excusing. 

Ever been there when you feel like someone has hit the repeat button?

It is almost like this CRABBY attitude, is used to “GET MY WAY!”

We are not 3 years old….

throwing fits and behaving like spoiled children, saying things with no regard to how it may hurt others….bullying and pulling manipulations tactics is for unbelievers.

What ever happened to “ If you don’t have anything nice to say , don’t say anything at all!”

Well I am coming to the conclusion that people who want to be like Christ may have twisted this one!

This statement is for the OFFENDERS!

We are not suppose to be SILENT in the face of such injustice….

We are to correct in love….but the problem has come that the offenders cause you to become silent and think that statement is for you because they call you judgmental, say that you aren’t being loving, the you are acting all high and mighty. When the truth is …


When you refuse to hear …. that you hurt someone – it’s PRIDE.

When you find yourself making excuses for your behavior when confronted – it’s PRIDE.

When you start blaming others instead of take responsibility for what you have done or where part of – It’s PRIDE.

When you accuse others of just being mean and unloving when they bring something to your attention, when you know these are people who love you. – It’s PRIDE.

So stop using the CRABBY PUSH —Putting Ur Self Higher to get your PRIDE ON!!

and instead walk in HUMILITY.

Colossians 3:12-14

12 Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].

13 Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].

It goes both way, everything is not always one sided…because there are times when we don’t deal with hurts and it turns into resentment …and the other person maybe coming to talk to you about your mouth but your unforgiving heart has hardened against them and you may need to be honest ….either way, what ever it is …if PRIDE is an issue : LETS GET IT RIGHT!

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